#847417 - 11/03/08 02:52 PM
Will you tell your kids.....
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Registered: 08/29/99
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Would you tell your kids you waited until marriage to have sex, even if you didn't?
I love this question!! I'll spill the beans on it - you go first!! ->
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#847422 - 11/03/08 03:00 PM
Re: Will you tell your kids.....
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happilycrazy
Registered: 11/03/06
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No...I don't see the sense in lying to them as I am trying to teach them to always tell the truth. Even if I wanted to lie, I wouldn't be able to as my oldest saw my wedding pics and knew I was pg with her at the time. Plus my youngest dd(20mths) dad and I are together but not married and the older kids all know how babies are made. I suppose I could always tell them we ran away and got married lol but they wouldn't believe me.
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#847425 - 11/03/08 03:13 PM
Re: Will you tell your kids.....
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Stephanie Marie
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Registered: 01/27/06
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Loc: Calgary, AB :)
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We will tell them to do whatever they believe in, and make sure they're making the choices that make them happy.
We can't exactly prech seeing as we did things the way we were happiest.
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#847444 - 11/03/08 03:45 PM
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vegan_mom
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i did wait until marriage and dd took a purity pledge to do the same...
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#847452 - 11/03/08 04:02 PM
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chel
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Registered: 12/15/04
Posts: 8225
Loc: BC
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we had two kids before we got married so no 
But we do talk about waiting until you find someone you love - they also get the talk that no sex is totally safe sex. We have a friend who is a nurse & teaches safe sex - she has gotten pregnant twice within months with TWINS EACH time. So we tell the kids that unless they are prepared to be parents they should think hard about it.
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#847466 - 11/03/08 04:39 PM
Re: Will you tell your kids.....
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Triptych
Registered: 08/25/02
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I was pregnant with DS when I was married so that part is easy math! LOL
I have mentioned love is important in any intimate relationship but so far have not gone into a lot of details.
I firmly believe that sex with love is ok if my kids are properly protected and aware of the significance of their choices. I also think they must be aware of the consequences before starting in an intimate relationship.
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#847485 - 11/03/08 05:21 PM
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ETs Mommy
Has officially gone crazy!
Registered: 10/31/08
Posts: 1845
Loc: Warman Saskatchewan
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DD was three months old at our wedding so I'm sure she would be able to figure that one out. I would/will tell her that she should wait until she is really sure its what she wants to do and to make sure that its done safely.
DH will tell her no boys til shes 25 :P What are fathers for?!
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#847486 - 11/03/08 05:23 PM
Re: Will you tell your kids.....
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frazzled
Registered: 02/04/05
Posts: 6551
Loc: BC
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I was pregnant with DS when I was married so that part is easy math! LOL
Smart kids. I didn't figure that one out until I held a 18th wedding anniversary for Mom and Dad - huge surprise party, with all the signage and everything. When I noticed the aunties were giggling to each other, they told me that it was their 17th, not their 18th. I said, "it couldn't be, I was born in October, they got married in May, so it must be their 18th!
Mom was morified! I still had trouble believeing it in all my naievity. Was scratching my head forever on that one!
I have talked with my boy about their choices and waiting for marriage to have sex, along with the STD info, birth control, the works. I had to do this with my boys, because dad wouldn't. He would have put quite a different spin on things, I'm sure. But, he just couldn't go there with them.
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#847500 - 11/03/08 05:46 PM
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FTDad
Registered: 07/10/08
Posts: 197
Loc: Edmonton, Alberta
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This one has an obvious follow up question.
If you didn't wait, will you be disappointed if your son/daughter don't wait?
(Include both....sex and parenthood.)
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#847505 - 11/03/08 06:00 PM
Re: Will you tell your kids.....
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frazzled
Registered: 02/04/05
Posts: 6551
Loc: BC
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If you didn't wait, will you be disappointed if your son/daughter don't wait?
I won't be disappionted in their choices about sex now that they are adults. In fact, I hope not to know at all about that part of thier lives, but they seem to think I should be interested.......
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#847559 - 11/03/08 08:48 PM
Re: Will you tell your kids.....
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Kattnipp
Registered: 09/24/05
Posts: 879
Loc: In the zoo..
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We will tell our daughter we lived together a long time before getting married then waited a few years to start our family. I don't see the point in lying as it is goes against what we are teaching her and I am sure someone in the family will spill the beans.
Annette
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